How to develop healthy Relationships

A relationship is a major part of human life. humans depend for survival on nature and it's resources, other humans. There are many moments in life when everyone needs a partner, a friend, a well-wisher with whom we can share everything about ourselves. 

We need psychological support, emotional support, physical support. For this, we need to develop a healthy relationship like the relationship of a father and a son, a brother and a sister, a mother and a son, husband-wife, friends, girlfriend boyfriend, etc ...

"A relationship is a unity, a beautiful, delicate partnership that is supposed to provide you with a sense of belonging."

Pillars of a healthy relationship:
1) Love and respect
2) Trust
3) Understanding
4) Faith
5) communication
6) Loyalty

For a healthy relationship, one may need to understand and experience these all.
it’s necessary that the effort is made from both sided to hold on to the relationship and remain faithful.

Love and Respect, both are integral parts of each other. Generally, people confused about love and attraction both are two sides of the coin. As humans we are attracted to a lot of people in opposite sex, that is on a temporary basis but love is permanent.

 You can differentiate both by asking one question our self,  'Can I sacrifice something for that person? '

What is love? There are many definitions but in my view, in one word I say love is freedom. It's a feeling of completeness. There are no boundaries in love it's like an Ocean with the flow of positive feelings. A person with whom you can live your whole life in any circumstances whether good or bad.

love itself a magical work when you hear it listen to it you feel fullness and storm of energy within.

LOVE changes people.
Lovers don't change each other, but
love changes Lovers.

Another aspect of love is respect. By respecting each other’s space or even doing small things for each other, it shows that both understand and appreciate one and another. Respect is the foundation of a healthy, understanding and happy relationship in the long run. There can be days where it might be frustrating for both of you to be under one roof and perhaps even stand each other. Respect each other privacy. A healthy relationship needs space.

The second one is Trust. Trust is like glue or bond which holds a relationship. Your relationship is dependent on how strong the bond is. Trust your partner means trusting them with anything your thoughts, your emotions, your responsibilities, your problems, your good or bad time. It is also related to security it brings security in the relationship that grows with time and experience. 

Security in the relationship gives you freedom because you assure about partner for life long. Friendship is also based on the relationship if you are a good friend of your partner you can easily understand each other. You should have a genuine interest in each other’s personalities and enjoy each other’s company.

The third one is Understanding.
Understanding that there are lows to life, and there is an effort that each put in and that it can get tiring at times, is respecting when it is most needed. Understanding is played a vital role in individual life as well as in a relationship.

There are many couples who struggle to understand their partners. Here are certain ways to grow understanding .

Don't impose your ideas or belief. if you wanna understand him/her you have to understand his own convictions accept his belief as a part who they are.

Allow your partner to live life outside your relationship mean giving them space for their own to do other stuff. One important thing is to remember you are not always right sometimes maybe he/she is right so try to understand their perspective. 

Trying to prove your view and judge their view may hurt your partner. Learn to compromise, find common solutions to problems, this is essential to compromise from both sides to improve the relationship.

Give your partner enough time to explain before you react. sometimes misunderstanding happens so don't react quickly and before jump to any decision give a chance your partner to explain.

Encourage your partner in their work, help them to learn new things. Try to be polite and calm. sometimes anger may ruin your relationship. Anger is bad for both, it hurts people.

Be expressive. It's not necessary that your partner understands you every time. you have to express your emotions, your feelings.

Communication, One of the most important communication skills is listening. other communication in feelings, thoughts. Talk to each other. No matter how well you know and love each other, you cannot read your partner’s mind. 

We need to communicate clearly to avoid misunderstandings that may cause hurt, anger, resentment or confusion.
It takes two people to have a relationship and each person has different communication needs and styles.

Couples need to find a way of communicating that suits their relationship. Healthy communication styles require practice and hard work, however, communication will never be perfect all the time. Be clear when communicating with your partner, so that your message can be received and understood.
put aside your ego and accept responsibility and feelings of each other.

“We speak not only to tell other people what we think but to tell ourselves what we think. Speech is a  part of a thought.”                                                                                                        Oliver sack

Loyalty, Loyalty is an important part of any relationship. Loyalty is a quality that should always be at the top of your priority list. It's a strong assurance of another person. Whether it be in work, business, family, friendship or a relationship, loyalty builds from a specific personality.

Being loyal in a relationship is one of the most sought after qualities in a partner. And it’s no wonder why. In today’s society, where materialism has overpowered feelings and substance, loyalty has become a luxury not many can afford!

Expecting your significant other to be loyal in a relationship has become but a mere dream. Today, we all occasionally make our peace with having to sacrifice our emotions for something more materialistic and less obtainable.

But why? There should be no stigma attached to loyalty! We are all entitled to be respected, loved and cared for. Just because you are chasing your dreams and trying to make something of yourself does not mean you have to settle for mediocre love or betray your partner.